What do you want for Valentine’s?

Sigh! Valentine’s Day is fast approaching!  Have you seen the offers every where you look? Some interesting, some exciting; some down right boring.  So, what do you want for Valentine’s? Or are you pretending you don’t care? Really? You don’t care? Wacha…you are dying for some secret admirer to send you some flowers on that day! Or  maybe you are planning to send yourself some flowers and pretend its from a secret admirer. Valentine’s Day is one big commercial event, soon to be bigger than the Christmas season and I hear some people are advocating for it to be a public holiday!!! Last year there was an offer to take your lover out to some exotic place – I think it was Mt Kenya for Kshs 1million (a plot would have been a better gift for me!). Many of us will be sucked into the whole excitement and take up up the offers. Whatever the case, the pressure many men and couples will be under would make one bolt for the caves. In defiance most men or women (depending on how you swing) will deliberately disappoint most of us.Why do  we expect  to be treated  extra special on just that one day? What about other days?

Must there be one special day where I’m shown how much I’m loved? To me it should be Valentine’s day everyday, just small wonderful gestures every now then. Remember to call me; Share a joke; Seen a beautiful bangle that you think would suit me; hug me to sleep; take me to the movies; Talk to me about your dreams or even your fears; Sleep in a whole weekend together;Talk the whole night! Take me for a long drive; And this doesn’t have to happen every day, though it should happen often. Basically, lets treat each other well every day, we all deserve it.

For those who are hoping to get treated specially on Valentine’s Day, I’d like to suggest, start the campaign now and manage your expectations. Say what you want and expect for Valentine’s day. Instead of hoping that you’ll be surprised, find out if he even believes in Valentine’s to avoid being disappointed on that day. I hope he is honest  enough to tell you and humor you anyway and send you a message even! If he says he doesn’t believe in the day, then plan to do something else. So many single chicks without a plan, do a night out with your friends and have a great time.  Send Valentine gifts or messages to all your girlfriends. Send to even your non-believers boyfriends too! They may come round in good time.

Saw this quote on Twitter the other day: ”Valentine’s day should be just be renamed “International Disappoint Your Girlfriend Day” by @Despicable

It doesn’t have to be that way!

jamdany@jarsmedia.com

16 Responses to “What do you want for Valentine’s?”

  1. Linc
    February 10, 2012 at 9:11 am #

    I liked the article

  2. Daisy Amdany
    February 10, 2012 at 10:02 am #

    Hebu tell me, what was the origin of this Valentine business that dictates the we set aside one day for love?! I really wonder about us; we are sold to these strange foreign concepts with very little understanding. Any way, every fool and their lover will be all over the place with flowers and red outfits trying to prove their undying “love”. Many will be disappointed, others will be excited, many will be cheated and many more will score big! Poor souls!

  3. Ari
    February 10, 2012 at 10:20 am #

    love this article..nice read!! the topic of valentines can be a gimmick some times…

  4. MaryAnne
    February 10, 2012 at 11:22 am #

    Lovely light reading with some lovely key messages: manage your expectations, love is not an event. Love the site too!!
    All the best blogging

  5. Kali
    February 10, 2012 at 12:21 pm #

    I dread walking in to work on Valentine’s Day – inevitably some young lil’ thing will be wearing red and almost holding her breath waiting for her flowers to arrive. And shock when the “flowers” arrive – a single red rose that we all know was bought last minute form all the vendors that suddenly appear in the CBD sellng roses to all the “Oh my goodness I forgot!” men in town. So, yes, I think it’s over-rated. No, I’m not a bitter single woman with no hope of flowers unless they’e self-sent. I’ve had my share of huge over-the-top presents but to be honest I really think what you shoudl do on Valentine’s Day is whatever brings you two closer. If that’s a special dinner, or curling up on the grass staring at a starry sky then so be it. But for me, pls give me a little bit of Valentine’s all year

  6. Kali
    February 10, 2012 at 12:25 pm #

    Oh, and I love the pic of you – it’s soooo you when you’re laughing :-)

    • Daisy Amdany
      February 10, 2012 at 2:38 pm #

      @Kali-Couldn’t have said it better! Valentine ought to be all year round

  7. rose musau
    February 10, 2012 at 1:21 pm #

    Valentine is here again – yeah!:-) would you believe it, I usually will wear something red, will buy chocolate or flowers for my colleagues (we are a team of women) and celebrate the day set aside for love. I expect flowers and to be spoilt however, I believe EVERY DAY I should be treated special and I will reciprocate! If you don’t have a valentine, love you as my kids say ‘You do you” and spoil you!

    Jebet, love the picture and love the blog!

  8. Daisy Amdany
    February 10, 2012 at 2:42 pm #

    Jars, you have so many lovely pictures, please change this one

  9. Luiji
    February 10, 2012 at 4:54 pm #

    Is it Valentine’s again? It must be Las Vegas 7s – time :) Can’t wait…

  10. Kunle Idowu (Uncle K)
    February 10, 2012 at 10:14 pm #

    Jebet (Sheila) Am too weighed down with colonial mentality. However, I want to say that I’m enjoying ur article …. on Valentine, etc. Keep the blog up. Cheers from ur second home, Lagos!!!

  11. Njoroge
    February 11, 2012 at 8:05 am #

    Like many things in life,but especially love, love is a continuous experIence. It is never static, but like your skin, grows and wanes every single day. However, over time, if well taken care of, it can, it will grow, intensify, overwhelm sometimes and become addictive. Even when it disappoints, saddens, hurts to the core and even mocks.

    So Valentines day is not a miracle birth, it is not a bolt frm the heavens. Rather, it is a day to sit back and reflect, perhaps rejoice for your good fortune, and give thanks where you love. Or rededicate your heart to the hope of love.

  12. Fiona K
    February 11, 2012 at 8:21 am #

    What a fun read! Laughed out loud at the hope of a secret admirer sending flowers! ‘Read too many M&Bs in my teens.now, my true feelings about Valentine’s Day? It’s a lover’s day. If you don’t have one, it’ll just be 14 Feb! Let them have their day! Why? I’ve never heard of anyone looking for a child or mnther because it’s Mother’s Day! No-one’s ever made a fuss about it! No lover? No V-Day! It’s a day for romantic love! So that cuts out sharing it with parents, siblings kids – all relatives other than spouses! For obvious legal reasons and social taboos! J, I love you everyday and twice as much on your birthday! Let’s leave V-day lovers! Hugz!

  13. Garum
    February 11, 2012 at 10:55 am #

    Eh! Valentine’s day hype too much!. Loving is for everyday. Excitement for every minute. Reserving all that for a single day is just not right. But I guess not all are falling for it.

  14. Afia
    February 11, 2012 at 11:59 am #

    Just send me a Range Rover on that day and give me love for the other 364 days of the year.

  15. Daisy Amdany
    February 14, 2012 at 4:04 pm #

    Okay so Valentine’s came and is almost gone, i must say i am impressed at how committed people are to this day of love. Chicks were in the spirit and red was the color of things. The flower vendors certainly out did themselves but given the number of arrangements they had by the time i was making my way home, i suspect that many of them have found out the very hard way that things are thick and flowers or love for that matter, is not a priority during these economically difficult times. Survival is the theme of the season. I wonder if those in the “developed” countries fared any better.

    All the same, it was an impressive show. Next up, birthdays and Easter

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